First, I want to say that I am so sorry you are going through this. As I was reading your message, it felt like I was reading about my life in similar ways a few years ago.
As far as resources, if you are open to it, I recommend speaking to a lawyer to get information as far as options that you may have. I personally recommend Lindsay Willis at Rosen Law. I believe she offers consultation for a small fee. She was amazing at answering questions I had prior to initiating the separation/divorce.